Tag - Keyhole Into A Girl’s Mind.

Keyhole Into A Girl’s Mind.

Look at that picture. Look at his blasé attitude. Look at the desire in hers.

I recently overheard some girls talking about how Taylor Swift is brave to write songs about the pains of love. If they were talking about guys writing songs about the pains of love they would see them as pathetic. Double Standard.

One of the girls cited the song “Dear John” as an example of what a jerk John Mayer was for dumping Taylor Swift. Since she’s “such a great girl.” Trite.

I recently read the lyrics and I have come to the conclusion that John Mayer is an alpha male. The reasoning is simple. I never met a girl who let any guy but an alpha male still stay on her mind.

Let’s examine the lyrics.

My mother accused me of losing my mind,
but I swore I was fine
You paint me a blue sky
and go back and turn it to rain
And I lived in your chess game,
but you changed the rules every day

An interesting thing I’ve learned to passionate relationships is the concept of hot and cold. Girls do this subconsciously, but when a guy throws it towards a female. Sparks happen.

There is an evolutionary prerogative for women to be interested in guys who play by their own rules. Leadership. It’s a seductive quality. The fact that he does not cater to her is a signal to her that he is unconcerned with her walking away. This annoys her. She wants to be his special snowflake.

Well maybe it’s me and my blind optimism to blame
Maybe it’s you and your sick need to give love then take it away
And you’ll add my name to your long list of traitors who don’t understand
And I’ll look back and regret how I ignored when they said “run as fast as you can”

Optimism+Relationship = Dreams of Fairytale

Notice how she knows of his “history” and refers to his ex’s as traitors who didn’t understand him. She puts herself in the same category. She is not blaming him for leaving her. She is not blaming him for anything beyond making her fall in love with him. She takes all the blame for betraying him and leaving. Eye-opening.

If he was a guy with white knight syndrome she would be cracking jokes about him to her friends. If she was married to him she would be pumping him for alimony.

You are an expert at sorry,
and keeping lines blurry
Never impressed by me acing your tests
All the girls that you run dry
with tired, lifeless eyes
cause you burned them out
But I took your matches before fire could catch me,
so don’t look now:
I’m shining like fireworks over your sad, empty town

Here she is giving him credit for being able to appeal to woman’s emotional inner desires. In fact she is giving him credit for being able to leave girls with longing for him even after he ruined their chances for love.

I love the last line. This utters one thing to me: I’m not affected by you because I got over you. Yet she is writing a song about how he messed her up and he’s not to blame because that is just who he is and she recognizes that. Apologist.

Indifference is not an emotion a girl feels towards a guy she saw as an alpha.